Narcissists are known for their manipulative behaviors, and blocking and unblocking on social media or in communication is a common tactic they use to exert control and maintain power in their relationships. Understanding this pattern can be crucial to protecting your well-being and setting healthy boundaries. This post will delve into why narcissists engage in this behavior and how you can best navigate this frustrating and emotionally taxing situation.
Why Do Narcissists Block and Unblock?
The seemingly erratic act of blocking and unblocking is far from random for a narcissist. It's a calculated move designed to achieve several goals:
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Control and Manipulation: The most significant reason is to maintain control over the narrative and the relationship. By blocking you, they silence your voice and your perspective. Unblocking allows them to re-engage when they feel like it, reinforcing their dominance in the dynamic. This creates a cycle of dependence and emotional instability in their victim.
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Punishment and Attention-Seeking: Blocking can serve as a punishment for perceived slights, real or imagined. It's a way to make you feel insecure and anxious, prompting you to reach out and try to re-establish contact. This feeds their ego and confirms their power over you. Unblocking then becomes a reward, offering a brief glimpse of connection before potentially repeating the cycle.
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Fueling Their Supply: Narcissists thrive on attention, both positive and negative. The drama created by blocking and unblocking provides them with the narcissistic supply they crave. Your reactions – whether anger, sadness, or desperate attempts to reconnect – all contribute to this supply.
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Testing Boundaries: They may block and unblock to test your boundaries and see how much you will tolerate. This helps them gauge your level of commitment and willingness to be manipulated.
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Keeping Options Open: By unblocking, they maintain the option of returning to you if they need something – whether it's emotional support, financial assistance, or simply an ego boost.
How to Handle Being Blocked and Unblocked by a Narcissist
Dealing with this manipulative behavior requires a strong sense of self-awareness and self-respect. Here's what you can do:
1. Recognize the Pattern
The first step is to acknowledge that this is a pattern of abuse and not a sign of genuine connection or remorse. Don't fall into the trap of believing their actions are motivated by anything other than their own needs.
2. Prioritize Your Well-being
This behavior is designed to destabilize you emotionally. Focus on self-care: Spend time with supportive friends and family, engage in activities that bring you joy, and consider professional help if needed.
3. Set Boundaries
The most important step is to establish and maintain strong boundaries. This means refusing to engage in the cycle of blocking and unblocking. Do not reach out to them when they unblock you. Ignore their attempts at contact. This removes their source of narcissistic supply.
4. Go No Contact
In most cases, the healthiest approach is to go no contact entirely. This involves cutting off all communication, both direct and indirect (through social media, mutual friends, etc.). This is the most effective way to protect your mental and emotional health.
Moving Forward: Healing and Recovery
Breaking free from the cycle of manipulation requires strength and resilience. Remember that you deserve respect and healthy relationships. Focus on building a life free from the toxic influence of narcissistic individuals. Seek support from therapists, support groups, or trusted friends and family to help navigate the healing process.
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